" a reward for enduring family challenges" This is so true Diana, but oddly enough, this is my own self imposed label, that I've worn like a badge of honor, true enough. And yes, at one point I viewed it in the same way that people have the misconception that long suffering means suffering long. It doesn't! So yes, I'm still resilient, but I'm resilient in not allowing others to impose their crap on me anymore. Thanks for the great topic and strong viewpoints :-)