"In my older years, I am able to reflect on the mistakes I’ve made in past relationships and what my action or reaction should have been. " Outstanding dating advice Harlyn. I finally figured out why it can be so hard for us to accept the truth in these circumstances. It's because when you know you're totally awesome, it's hard not to understand how some knucklehead can't see it too. Been there, done that, and finally came to grips with reality. This was a great story Harlyn, and by the way - I love your name :-)