"It’s always bothered me; why couldn’t he love me enough to get it together?" It's interesting how you somehow feel you weren't lovable enough for him "to get it together". Whatever you feel he needed to get together (and probably rightfully so) amounted to his shortcomings, not your own. I think it's kind of you to still care and want the best for them, but you should probably also focus on wanting the best for yourself just as much, if not more. You sound like you deserve it. Thanks for sharing Christine :-)