" offense is “a fence”. Offense is actually much deeper than behavior." Wow, such a good description and viewpoint about what is actually going on when people feel offended. I love this perspective, although I have to say, even though this puts some of the responsibility on the offended party, to take responsibility for their own feelings, it still doesn't give people a license or a pass, to say things that are clearly derogatory, spiteful or meant to cause pain. That's just my opinion Cheyenne - no offense :-)