"people-pleasers and to de-escalate situations " OMG Olivia, this hit home on multiple levels! First, I JUST sent a draft to a pub on "people pleasing" and indicated I no longer fall into that role like years ago. But I had no idea that a recent experience at a bar proves my growth - according to what you wrote. After enjoying a nice fast dance with a guy, he later came and stood too close up on me, pressing his body against my thigh. At first I informed him politely that he was in my space, but then I had to check him in no uncertain terms, and with plenty of attitude. I felt no need to explain myself to him or try to soothe the savage beast like once upon a time. I never thought about it until now, but that's real growth. Yay me. Thanks for this :-)