"this brother applies a substantial amount of heat " Girlfriend I feel you now, and I've felt the heat. When it happened to me, they didn't used to call it ghosting LOL - At least you called it out for what it was. I idealized the relationship when I wrote about it, and even had the nerve to call him a "kindred spirit" with my blind butt. But he really seemed that way at the time. Oh well...:-(