"Victims frequently become people pleasers and work hard to “make” others like them because of their low self-esteem." This is so true. I lived for years, not realizing this about myself. But oh what a joy, when you experience faith and self awareness. You learn to value yourself for who you are - authenticity and all. This is a gift that comes from belief in a Higher Being, and that's why, unfortunately, some people find it so hard to get to this place in their lives, but it is definitely possible :-)