Wow girlfriend. That's a tough call. I'd say yes - he deserves to do whatever he wants in his retirement, but knowing how much life he probably still has ahead of him, I can see you wanting to share the rest of the best of his years with him. My sister is in a home and content with not even bothering to get stronger and better. She told me the other day, she's content, and I don't get it. I'd be climbing the damn walls, and I'm only 5 years behind her. Whatever happens, don't allow him to influence your thinking, in the event you're not able to influence his. Keep doing you :-)